On Carl Rogers and Gloria

Rogers developed a personal relationship with Gloria, which many have deemed inappropriate. The father and daughter exchange seemed harmless enough, but afterwards, the relationship became even more personal, bordering on romantic tension. After the session, Rogers admitted that he regretted the relationship had to end. Even though it was only a 1/2 an hour or so, they developed a relationship that went beyond what today is acceptable in a therapist/client relationship.

Rogers’ technique seems to be to allow the client to drive the session and simply provide encouragement and support for whatever the client decides. Gloria seemed at times to be a little confused or annoyed that she wasn’t getting more input, but often, the client just needs someone to talk to. That’s something many cognitive therapists don’t understand.

But it seems that Rogers could have provided some suggestions, possibly by brainstorming ideas to solve the problem. The issue was Gloria’s lie to her daughter, which she felt had compromised her integrity. So, should she confess to the daughter that she lied? There are three options here.

1. Yes she could admit that she lied and they could have a completely open relationship where everything is shared. But that doesn’t quite seem appropriate for the 7 year old.

2. She could continue to lie to her daughter, perhaps until the daughter was old enough to understand.

3. Tell the daughter that there are some things that are personal, even between a mother and daughter, and that they’d talk about it when she was older.

Rogers technique was to just let the client do all the work, but there may be times when an objective observer could see possibilities that that evaded the client.

Of course, this therapy session occurred back in the 50s and was cutting edge at the time.

Integral Therapy

To make the person complete unto himself. A well rounded individual having dealt with all aspects of the self. Boosting self-esteem to eliminate weaknesses.

1. Living in the present. No dwelling on problems or the past but understanding the environment from which you  grew and continue to grow.

2. Intellectual curiosity. The desire to understand the world around you.

3. Hobbies.

4. Love. Family. Close friends.

5. Self-respect. Honoring your values and integrity.

6. Treating others with respect and empathy.

7. Doing work that’s fulfilling and making the world a better place.

8. Honesty in all aspects of your life.

9. Acceptance of yourself and of others.

10.  Leadership skills.

11. Communication skills.

12. Respect for heritage and tradition but forward thinking and progressive.

13. Interested in community.

Narration Mindfulness

Narration mindfulness is the practice of narrating your movements to help you keep in the moment. It’s designed to be for those who have tried mindfulness and mindfulness meditation but can’t seem to stop the monkey mind.

More to come…

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